It’s not just a problem for the girls. These years are difficult for the blokes too. My husband, Giles The Axe as he’s fondly known at Victoria Health, says this:

“Men have no training or knowledge about the menopause. Many questions are raised in a man’s mind about his own desirability, once what had been normal stimuli or behaviour subsides in his partner. Men can take it personally. The essence for men is to understand and accept the circumstances and not to put pressure on the relationship, to show compassion and care. It can all get mixed up and it gets very difficult to think clearly and rationally. Try to talk about it, and not be afraid of it. Finding the fun again is crucial.”

So put the swing back in your stride with these fruity ideas:

Keep a copy of the Kama Sutra under your pillows (or similar beautifully illustrated guide – I find the Oriental approach very refreshing too). It is ‘attributed to Nandi the sacred bull, doorkeeper to the god Shiva, who was moved to sacred utterance by overhearing the lovemaking of the god and his wife Parvati and later recorded his utterances for the benefit of mankind.’ It’s beautiful, it’s fun and if it’s in there, it’s normal!

Update your undies – go shopping together.

 Get some toys – if you’re a novice, try the Vielle range from Victoria Health (see below).

Remember - give the subject the time and attention it deserves. Even just talking about it over a cup of tea can be a relief, and may be surprisingly erotic!

And for subtle, natural assistance:

Viapro for the boys, Viafem for the girls.

Femergy

Damiana Tincture

Libilov

If you are having deep-seated problems, we all love Sexual Healing from Light Heart Essences. 

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 Meanwhile, here’s something to get you going………